Jane's Posts

May 19 1998

I've been dating a woman for about 5 months now...it was an incredible attraction, not just physical but mental as well...things went great and though neither of us was looking for it we fell in love. I have a 5 year old and began to introduce him to her about 3 months into the relationship...we're talking really light stuff here-just enough so he knows the woman I am dating is. For the past month she's starting to get nervous, finding herself in a serious committed relationship is not always comfortable to her...sometimes she just wants to be alone...UGH...well we're working on that and she obviously is not comfortable with the child issue, I want her to take it at her own pace, but what should I expect? I'm torn between my responsibilities as my son's father and my commitment to this woman. Thoughts? How can I bring the two feelings together.

I agree that you should take things very slowly. Committing to a relationship and committing to parenthood are both so scary. For most of us, the committments come separately: you get over the former before you have to deal with the latter. If your gf can work through her issues about linking her life to yours without dealing with your son, then maybe it will be easier.

jane